Happy International Women’s Day!

 

Thanks for stopping by the blog today! I am off standing in solidarity with women in DC and women all over the US that are celebrating International Women’s Day, by recognizing a strike called A Day Without A Woman (more here: https://www.womensmarch.com/)

While there are countless articles about this strike, who it’s for, and who it harms, I am lucky to be a privileged woman that can use paid time off, and her nanny for day-care, so that I can take this day. I recognize my privileged ability here and plan to use the day to support causes I believe in, and woman-owned businesses in Washington, DC.

Whether you plan to partake or not, there is no judgement here. Do whatever makes the most sense for you – and acknowledge how awesome it is to get to make that choice for yourself. For those of you taking the day, I’ll hopefully see you at the 12pm Planned Parenthood Rally at the Capitol, or the 3:30pm Women Workers Rising event downtown. Hope to see you guys there!

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Let’s Get Personal: Get Uncomfortable, Listen, & the Necessity of Diversifying the Views in Your Life

Images: Sarah Williams

With all the doom & gloom happening in the country (world?) right now, and constant fury & fear on my Twitter, I am constantly searching for slivers of positivity, or good that game from November’s election. For one, it’s opened my eyes to the need to participate in our government, and no longer be a privileged bystander. I’ve had multiple conversations with friends and family at this point, that if you are not called to action at this point, then you have the privilege to be complacent.

But this post is meant to be less about privilege (though I plan to tackle that topic again because I’ve never been more aware of mine, personally), and more about the need to diversify the people you talk to and interact with on a daily basis. After the election, I was one of those women that was SHOCKED that white women voted so heavily for Trump and I was also one of those women that considered myself a feminist, though had never heard the term intersectional feminism before. I consider myself to be aware of others, however I was aware only as much as I was exposed to from the media I ingested and the people I surrounded myself with. One of the best things (for me personally) that came from the Women’s March, was reading about intersectional feminism, and understanding that there are different degrees & levels of feminism, and that feminism for women of color is a whole other arena. When I thought of feminism, I thought of the most basic version: equality for women! What I never even considered was dividing that group of ‘women’ up further to look at black vs hispanic vs muslim vs poor vs trans women.

One of the first things I started doing (thanks to the countless op-eds I started reading post election & women’s march) was to start following women of colors on Twitter. We all know how I feel about Twitter (it is my everything), but when I took a hard look at my feed, it was filled with mostly white women, neighbors (still heavily white), and DC area businesses. Yikes – this needed to change.

I also keep going back to this video I watched recently about implicit bias. So much of this video has been swirling in my mind – the need to diversify the vantage points in your life, the way children assimilate to similar groups they are brought up in, and how humans naturally assimilate toward more comfortable groups of beings because it’s just that, comfortable. Well it’s time to get uncomfortable. It’s time to follow accounts that are having completely different experiences and are being affected differently by this currently political climate/current administration’s dealings. And in my discomfort, it is time to LISTEN (yes I see the irony in writing that as I type my own thoughts/opinions out in this blog post), and for those of you that know me, you know that I am much more likely the one sharing my opinion, than listening to someone elses.

But that needs to change too. So while I settle into my new realm of discomfort, taking harder looks at my privilege, the people I have in my life, and the circles I keep, I must continue to push myself harder to diversify further and listen more. I think we could all benefit from this. So if you have Twitter accounts for me to follow, books to read, or columns to check out – please send them my way.

Kate & Mike’s Hahn Horniculture Garden Engagement Pictures at Virginia Tech

Images: Jasmine White Photography

Rest wasn’t exactly in the weekend playbook, at least as far as Evie was concerned. Friday was packed with venue walkthroughs (May weddings are just around the corner!!), and Saturday was spent in a no-sleep zombie haze. We got a few things done around the house, but mostly hung around as I head into another week (and upcoming weekend) of single parenting with Andy headed to SXSW. Ah, I’ll sleep again some day right …. RIGHT!? On another note, we have a cute little Virginia Tech engagement session on the blog today. So let’s kick off another week with LOVE, shall we?

Mike and Kate met in Blacksburg in 2013. They initially met online and had their first date at the Au Bon Pan on the Virginia Tech campus, where they each drank multiple cups of tea and chatted for hours.

In the summer of 2016, they planned a two-week trip to Europe. Mike proposed in the small town of Bacharach, Germany, on a hill overlooking the Rhine River.

Modern, Rustic Romantic Wedding Inspiration

Images: Stephanie Leigh Photo & Design via Two Bright Lights

Happy Friday Romancers. A week of blogging – I think this is a record for me ;-p The cold has returned (I don’t hate it, though I feel bad for the blooming trees & flowers) and we’ve got a day of venue walk throughs to conquer. So we’ve got some gorgeousness for you all to view to help get you to the weekend. Let’s get to it!

From the photographer: This style shoot was all about grace, glamour, & a little rustic chic vibe. Out biggest goal with this shoot was to capture an elegant & romantic feeling on a gloomy day. From the flowing dress, to the gorgeous flowers and just enough sparkle, I feel that we accomplished this goal.

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Emma & Joe’s Rustic, Lydia Mountain Barn Wedding in Virginia

Images: Ashley Vanley Photography

Let’s escape to the mountains for today, shall we? A gorgeous, rustic wedding tucked away in the Blue Ridge Mountains sounds like exactly where I’d like to be today.

The bride wanted a place that reminded her of being back home in Montana. Cabins and views over looking the mountains gave an amazing backdrop to the ceremony. Folk music, games, and a camp fire made the evening so relaxing and fun! Guests were invited to bring their dogs to come and join in the festivities!

The groom played a song for the bride on the banjo and everyone danced late into the night some songs included was “Take me Home, Country Roads” by John Denver and “September” by Earth, Wind, & Fire. They were perfect songs for a Blue Ridge Mountain wedding in September! Joe & Emma are world travelers and for their honeymoon they are having their first adventure as husband and wife in Iceland.

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Photographer: Ashley Vanley Photography | Event Venue: Lydia Mountain Barn at Evermore Farm | DJ: Party Masters | Caterer: Scrumptious Suppers | Floral Designer: The Faded Poppy | Submitted via Two Bright Lights

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